ham apne aap mein yun gumm hue hein muddat se,
hame to jaisay kisi ka bhi intezaar nahi...
kisi ko toot kar chaahen ya chaah kar tootain,
hamare paas to itna bhi ikhteyaar nahi!
Tuesday, August 01, 2006
Saturday, July 29, 2006
Musings..
When I see a girl smoke or drink, how do I perceive it?
I dint like the girl intially.. but then I tried to look beyond her habits.. She is a nice person, quite an extrovert, considerate .. She took care her habits wont affect me.. Why did I not like her?
Consider a guy doing the same thing, will I dislike the person at the first instance?
On giving a further thought I found Yes, I really do not like such people at first instance. May be when I do come to know of better things about them , I can be friendly towards them.
But something in me dint make me comfortable with the girl. She was with me for hardly 4-5 days. May be I am really not the person who believes in Men Women equality?
But thats what I have seen around me .. A girl who speaks out her mind clearly is considered arrogant.. A girl taking initiative is considered over zealous.. and when I ask why I am branded the same way..
No I am not defending myself, I am ashamed of my perception of that girl. I should have treated her as I would have done to any other girl.. I should not have treated her differently.. Just like any other person who has fallen in bad habits.. and should have tried to know her more.. Should have tried to be with her if she was lonely.. But I dint do it..
Next time, let me remember this..
I dint like the girl intially.. but then I tried to look beyond her habits.. She is a nice person, quite an extrovert, considerate .. She took care her habits wont affect me.. Why did I not like her?
Consider a guy doing the same thing, will I dislike the person at the first instance?
On giving a further thought I found Yes, I really do not like such people at first instance. May be when I do come to know of better things about them , I can be friendly towards them.
But something in me dint make me comfortable with the girl. She was with me for hardly 4-5 days. May be I am really not the person who believes in Men Women equality?
But thats what I have seen around me .. A girl who speaks out her mind clearly is considered arrogant.. A girl taking initiative is considered over zealous.. and when I ask why I am branded the same way..
No I am not defending myself, I am ashamed of my perception of that girl. I should have treated her as I would have done to any other girl.. I should not have treated her differently.. Just like any other person who has fallen in bad habits.. and should have tried to know her more.. Should have tried to be with her if she was lonely.. But I dint do it..
Next time, let me remember this..
Monday, July 10, 2006
Trip to Jodhpur
I had been to Jodhpur recently.. for a friend's marriage. It was a very nice experience!
Visiting a new area, meeting new people, and facing a different climate..
It was just a 3 day trip , but it gave me new eyes, a different view - of myself , of others, of what I have been knowing and doing.
The toughest part of the trip was explaining my country's traditions to foreigners.. I realised that we being brought up in India, have known things implicitly.. Like an Arranged marriages, wearing turbans, etc. But they are puzzled!. Its amazing for an American girl to understand how can any Indian girl get married to an absolute stranger and go with him only becoz her elders, her parents have chosen the guy for her. It was difficult for theAmericans to understand, why some rituals are auspicious..Lighting a fire and going round it in Marriage seemed to be a source of pollution to them .
It made me think, do we Indians know why we do it? Do we ask questions and find that these rituals have meanings and significance of their own or we just blindly follow them? IF its blind faith , its superstition, but yes .. if I understand it , it isnt!
Snaps for the trip in two links..
One with the purpose of visit and all people involved http://www.esnips.com/web/HemendrasMarriageinJodhpur
and the other with the Places we watched in Jodhpur
http://www.esnips.com/web/JodhpurPalaceandFort
Theres lot more to be written about the trip and people met.. Some other time !
Visiting a new area, meeting new people, and facing a different climate..
It was just a 3 day trip , but it gave me new eyes, a different view - of myself , of others, of what I have been knowing and doing.
The toughest part of the trip was explaining my country's traditions to foreigners.. I realised that we being brought up in India, have known things implicitly.. Like an Arranged marriages, wearing turbans, etc. But they are puzzled!. Its amazing for an American girl to understand how can any Indian girl get married to an absolute stranger and go with him only becoz her elders, her parents have chosen the guy for her. It was difficult for theAmericans to understand, why some rituals are auspicious..Lighting a fire and going round it in Marriage seemed to be a source of pollution to them .
It made me think, do we Indians know why we do it? Do we ask questions and find that these rituals have meanings and significance of their own or we just blindly follow them? IF its blind faith , its superstition, but yes .. if I understand it , it isnt!
Snaps for the trip in two links..
One with the purpose of visit and all people involved http://www.esnips.com/web/HemendrasMarriageinJodhpur
and the other with the Places we watched in Jodhpur
http://www.esnips.com/web/JodhpurPalaceandFort
Theres lot more to be written about the trip and people met.. Some other time !
Tuesday, June 06, 2006
Some lines liked..
Kaun kehta hai maut ka jashna barbaad hai
Aj unki ruh jism se 'azad' hai
Zakhmon ko yun ched kar ghaav fir bhar payenge kya
kar ke apna qatl hum insaan fir kehlayenge kya
Ruh rahe 'azad' meri ibadat ye ho qabool
jo na hui qabool khuda fir pachtayenge kya
Monday, June 05, 2006
Waiting for the Rains
I like the rain, rainy season .. Getting drenched in rain is something I like very much , Except for 26th July 2005 rains , I have never hated it.. So I am waiting for the Monsoons ..
Water mesmerizes me..
be it raindrops, be it a pond, be it a flowing river, be it a gushing waterfall or even the roaring sea waves..
I can stand for hours looking at it without a single thought in my mind..
From Childhood, whenever I have seen a water body for the first time, I have taken a plunge in it accidentally..
First incidence I remember is my Mothers Home-town. It was month of May and River Pravara had been reduced to smaller ponds on riverbed. We all were sitting on steps on the banks at place where there was a lot of water. One of my chappals slipped and I jumped behind it to get it back straight in water .. Till I could get hold of it , I was half drowned.. A lady who was nearby caught hold my hand to keep me from drowning.. Something that comes to my eyes even now is the green water above my head ..
The first time I saw a sea was at Ganpatipule , a place in Ratnagiri district of Maharashtra.. A very renowned temple of Shri Ganesh just next to the sea..Playing in the sea waves, building sand castles, I dont remember these things, But yes I had tasted salt water when I met waves coming to the coast and prostrated in the sea . :-))
Then it was a family picnic to Kondeshwar.. I just couldnt resist sitting on the rock in the water while crossing the river ther..though the water was only knee deep..
The most recent and striking experience was when I was sitting on the steps of Kaleshwar, a Shiv mandir near our college and our fav freaking place. River Godavari flows slently there..
It was evening time , the sun was about to set and my friends were chatting on a topic which wasnt of my interest.. As my usual course of action, I was watching the ripples in the water intently forgetting the world around me and I felt a sudden pull from water.. It was like the water had called me in it.. I was just about to get up when my friend tapped on my shoulder
"Chala 7 Vajle .. 7:30 paryant gate chya aat jaychay aaplyala"
(Come on its 7 already.. have to reach the college gate till 7:30) - 7:30 was the time till we girls could stay out of the campus. too early na ;-)
This brought me out of the trance very abruptly. When I remember this day, I still donot know why I was so lost in thoughts the day.. But this has been a memorable moment. I went back to the river so many times after that, but the force of attraction never returned..
Water mesmerizes me..
be it raindrops, be it a pond, be it a flowing river, be it a gushing waterfall or even the roaring sea waves..
I can stand for hours looking at it without a single thought in my mind..
From Childhood, whenever I have seen a water body for the first time, I have taken a plunge in it accidentally..
First incidence I remember is my Mothers Home-town. It was month of May and River Pravara had been reduced to smaller ponds on riverbed. We all were sitting on steps on the banks at place where there was a lot of water. One of my chappals slipped and I jumped behind it to get it back straight in water .. Till I could get hold of it , I was half drowned.. A lady who was nearby caught hold my hand to keep me from drowning.. Something that comes to my eyes even now is the green water above my head ..
The first time I saw a sea was at Ganpatipule , a place in Ratnagiri district of Maharashtra.. A very renowned temple of Shri Ganesh just next to the sea..Playing in the sea waves, building sand castles, I dont remember these things, But yes I had tasted salt water when I met waves coming to the coast and prostrated in the sea . :-))
Then it was a family picnic to Kondeshwar.. I just couldnt resist sitting on the rock in the water while crossing the river ther..though the water was only knee deep..
The most recent and striking experience was when I was sitting on the steps of Kaleshwar, a Shiv mandir near our college and our fav freaking place. River Godavari flows slently there..
It was evening time , the sun was about to set and my friends were chatting on a topic which wasnt of my interest.. As my usual course of action, I was watching the ripples in the water intently forgetting the world around me and I felt a sudden pull from water.. It was like the water had called me in it.. I was just about to get up when my friend tapped on my shoulder
"Chala 7 Vajle .. 7:30 paryant gate chya aat jaychay aaplyala"
(Come on its 7 already.. have to reach the college gate till 7:30) - 7:30 was the time till we girls could stay out of the campus. too early na ;-)
This brought me out of the trance very abruptly. When I remember this day, I still donot know why I was so lost in thoughts the day.. But this has been a memorable moment. I went back to the river so many times after that, but the force of attraction never returned..
When I try to analyze this affinity to water, I find my both sun and moon zodiac are earth signs.. I was born in winter season.. so nothing related.. Only thing is I was born in a town set on riverbanks May be that has given me this attribute..
The funniest part of loving water is that 3 of my crushes have been Aquarians ;-))
PS: The snap is of the river Netravathi, on the banks of which is my native place, my birth place , Bantwal.
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