The most asked, most heard rhetoric question "How are you?"
Are we really concerned when we ask this question? Or we just throw this bunch of words when we have nothing else to start?
Do we expect the other person to say "I am not fine .. I am too troubled with my life..and I want to crib and cry" I see that we dont expect such replies , unless from a close friend. or if someone has a really good heart.
What if someone really says that? What is the reaction? A raised eyebrow with the thought " Oh my God! I have my own problems, now this person is goin to start cribbing..Save me !!!!"
On my Office Phone I get regular calls from the tele-marketers of credit cards. " Hello Madam, How are you ? I am calling from XYZ bank and we are offering you this lifetime credit card"
At the first question and pause I say "I am not fine" , I am curious as to how do they react.
One person was baffled and then forgot his next lines. One another disconnected saying"Sorry Ma'am" . The interesting one , who was a good salesman , said ,"Dont worry ma'am , After you listen to the offer I am presenting you wil be fine !"
One more place I see this question is on Chats and Orkut. I see a long lost friend online, I am happy and I ping "Hi , Long time no see .. How are you?" or simply "hi hru" and the response is always "I am Fine" or simply "f9"
Once I did reply ..somewhere., "I am not fine, Pareshan hun apni lifese " and know what , I am still waiting for a reply.. the person just dint respond!!
Seems we are always in search of Happiness..and we keep searching it in others.. I want to go the other way round..